But the moment we lose ourselves and our identity, we can no longer be the person we want to be. We want to be liked and loved by the ones we care about. Removing #book# from your Reading List will also remove any bookmarked pages associated with this title.
Most people hide from difficulty and internal turmoil. To truly appreciate something, you have to realize that you will lose it one day. Life is a series of unrelated events and decisions. We say things like, “everything happens for a reason.”But understand: Life just happens. It’s easy as changing your existing thoughts when they are not useful to you.
Whatever you do, get comfortable in your own skin, it’s the only one you will ever have. And that brings us back to Emerson again, he said: And that’s life.
Emerson’s essay helped push me to pursue my boldest creative goal. But that wasn’t as clear when I started writing it, or when I blogged the story as a serial after countless publishers rejected it.
In 2014, I wanted to write a book of literary science fiction, called but shorter, futuristic, and based on my work on Google’s legal document review team. I wrote the book—despite my many doubts, and those of others—because I was heeding Emerson’s warning that I’d be scooped if I held off.
And when we become adults we should become self-reliant individuals, but funnily enough, we become even more dependent on others. We feel that we always have to agree with everything and everyone. Instead of being timid, stand up right and say what you think without reservation. If you want to have a voice in the world, you can’t expect that will happen smoothly. When we have a conflict, we often say to ourselves, “I don’t care.” And we walk away. I look up to many people, but I don’t consider them as saints. Instead, learn how to become a master of your feelings and emotions.
When we look at ourselves, we never even consider that we might not need those things. I’ve drawn these lessons from Stoicism, Transcendentalism, and Pragmatism. How often do you think or feel something and you’re afraid of speaking it? Also, you don’t have to agree with everything your idols or examples say. In other words: Speaking out your emotions is not always useful. The first edition of the essay bore three epigraphs: a Latin line, meaning "Do not seek outside yourself"; a six-line stanza from Beaumont and Fletcher's Honest Man's Fortune; and a four-line stanza that Emerson himself wrote.Emerson dropped his stanza from the revised edition of the essay, but modern editors have since restored it.All three epigraphs stress the necessity of relying on oneself for knowledge and guidance.The essay has three major divisions: the importance of self-reliance (paragraphs 1-17), self-reliance and the individual (paragraphs 18-32), and self-reliance and society (paragraphs 33-50).His central point is that we should not ignore those inner whispers, which may be barely audible under the din of outside influences and self-doubt. After all, the world’s greatest thinkers and leaders had the courage to hear themselves and to follow their convictions, without concerning themselves overly about tradition and what others might think. I printed out the essay and annotated it, carried it around with me, stained it with wine, and wore it out.They taught themselves to ignore the din and doubt, and their ideas resonated with the world because they reflected a truth that others had sensed privately as well.“In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts,” Emerson writes. Then I printed another copy and went back to underlining. Otherwise, you become a dependent robot who can’t function by itself. But at the same time, we believe that it’s bad to depend on yourself. Because when you’re self-reliant, you can enrich the lives of the people around you much more. And even though I must confess I don’t fully master emotional self-reliance, I have made significant steps that positively changed my life. What you will find next are 6 lessons that can help you to become emotionally self-reliant. It’s always harder to speak your mind and to stand for something. Nothing’s going to change when you let out all your emotions. When you’re needy, you only damage your relationships in the long-term. And even though the purpose of life is not happiness in my opinion, being happy is still something that’s important to us. Without self-reliance, you can never be consistently happy.