If your statement starts with “I could be wrong”…, you should probably follow it with a question and not an assertion.
These are the people who sit in meetings and are more than willing to offer their opinions, but never ask other people to expand on or explain their ideas.
Closed-minded people are thinking of how they would refute the other person’s thoughts, rather than trying to understand what they might be missing.
If someone offers to help you defraud the government and suggests that “no one will know,” I suggest you walk away immediately.
There is wisdom in closed-mindedness on certain issues. As Dalio makes clear, you must be active in the process of open-mindedness: It won’t happen by accident.
They get angry when you ask them to explain something. Open-minded people are more curious about why there is disagreement. They understand that there is always the possibility that they might be wrong and that it’s worth the little bit of time it takes to consider the other person’s views….
They think people who ask questions are slowing them down. Open-minded people see disagreement as a thoughtful means to expand their knowledge.
Regardless, they’re always curious as to how people see things differently and they weigh their opinions accordingly. When you disagree with someone, what’s their reaction?
If they’re quick to rephrase what they just said or, even worse, repeat it, then they are assuming that you don’t understand them, rather than that you are disagreeing with them. Closed-minded people say things like “I could be wrong …
The other group digs their heels in at the first sign of disagreement and would rather die than be wrong.
It turns out, the way each group approaches obstacles defines much of what separates them.