Only in hindsight have I learned anything valuable from the experience with him. One user wrote that they didn’t “see how your sexuality is relevant to college admission.” Another found that “the coming out essay is overdone and a yawner for admissions.” Someone else asked “why just being gay makes you a better candidate than someone else” and said that they “would be more impressed by accomplishments, creativity, community service, internships and the like.” A different person advised that “it’s not enough to say you felt ostracized, confused, abandoned, self-pitying or suicidal...
When I wrote my Common App essay, I had not yet achieved self-acceptance for being gay. How did you overcome those feelings/fears and become a better person despite everything that has happened to you?
I suppose I’ve just unconsciously expressed an aspect of my identity.
It inflates the self-worth of some, all while crushing the confidence of otherwise perfectly capable college-bound students.
In a passcode-locked app on my phone, I had compiled phrases that began to describe how the metaphorical closet felt.
I wanted desperately to put pen (ha) to paper and explain how I felt like a formaldehyde-preserved frog — puffed up on the outside, trapped in a disguise, not fully alive.
I was the last person I knew to start my Common App essay.
I procrastinated it like no other assignment (except maybe the orientation Common Read), because the topic I had chosen was not the one I really wanted to write about.
Someone manipulative and toxic with whom I had been close friends.
Someone who frequently called me a faggot (only because he “wanted me to be one,” he once said).